This post is all about how to be a very happy Single Mom. Raising a human being is no simple task, even when you have a partner, but what if you don’t have it? And what if you don’t feel that happy? Scary stuff? Not really.
You’ve come to the right place. I’ve been a very happy single mom for some time, even while I had a partner. The typical perception of single motherhood is often negative, with assumptions of financial struggles and troubled children.
I am here to challenge those stereotypes and show you that being an insanely happy single mom is achievable and, in my case, preferable.
The journey to becoming a happy single mom was filled with fear and sorrow.
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Here’s how I made it
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It is tough to know happiness before you have experienced sadness and fear. I’m living proof that you can emerge stronger, finding the incredible freedom that awaits you on the other side of those challenging emotions.
Even more than a year after my separation, tears still flow when I remember our happy moments as a family of three.
Divorce is losing someone who’s still alive, and it carries a profound and distinct type of pain. It’s a pain often accompanied by waves of fear, the heavy burden of loneliness, and the daunting responsibility of single-handedly raising my child.
Following my divorce, I knew there was more to life, and I was determined to embark on an extraordinary journey filled with joyous, unexpected adventures.
My first step was seeking divine guidance, and I discovered that God was patiently waiting for me to reach out to Him. I’ve witnessed His mighty presence gently guiding us through life’s storms.
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I was committed to ensuring my daughter would have the most joyful childhood memories, emphasizing what she still possessed rather than dwelling on what was lost.
It was at this moment that my perspective shifted.
I began to explore who I wanted to be and added activities that brought us joy and kept us grounded in our Christian values 😊.
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That is how I became an Insaleny Happy Single Mom, committed to crafting a life filled with faith and loving memories for Mia❤️.
These are my Tips on How to be an Insanely Happy Single Mom
1. Be Organized
This is my number one tip because being organized gives you control over the madness.
I usually organize my day within a week in advance. My favourite tool is the Google Calendar. It is free to use, and you can add a “widget” or shortcut to your phone’s screen to make it more visible.
If you prefer paper, tools such as visual boards (like the one below) help keep your notes visible to you or everyone in the family.
Another helpful tool is a paper planner; there are tons of options. This 17-month planner is my favourite that I’ve used mainly to keep myself organized for work. I love the design in general, and it has enough space to write down.
Single Mom TIP: I like to start by brainstorming a master list, and then, based on my list, I create categories. Last, I organized the items in the brainstorming list into categories and assigned a day and date.
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2. Create a Daily Routine
This tip is related to tip #1, but this one is more focused on the regular day-to-day activities. One thing that keeps my sanity as a single mom is accomplishing everything I would usually accomplish in one day if I had a partner.
I live a Christian-focused lifestyle. Therefore, the way I start my day is with prayer and gratitude.
I’ve been using the YouVersion Bible app on my phone for years! And I love it! The app has a daily bible verse and a short video to give you context and explain in more detail what the verse is about.
The app also has many plans on diverse topics that can accompany you in your prayer journey and teach you more about the Word of God for your life.
A typical day for me looks like this:
6:00 am – Prayer Time
7:00 am – Start work (I work remotely from home)
8:00 am – Wake up Mia and get her ready for school.
8:45 am to 4:00 pm – Work Time. Depending on the day and time of the year, I like going for a walk or just sitting on the patio for a quick lunch.
4:00 pm 7:00 – Dinner, homework, or hanging out with Mia.
7:00 pm to 9:00 pm – Free time. This is your time to sit and relax!
3. Autonomy
By far, the best aspect of being a single mom. No in-laws or anyone else to negotiate or consult on how to conduct your life or raise your children! wohoo!
Single moms have complete autonomy regarding every decision, which is so Fun!
For example, Mia & I decided we wanted to become pescatarians; we love seafood, so it was a natural evolution to our new life.
You could plan a trip with your kids and summer road trips to places that are fun for you! This summer, we visited Edmonton and enjoyed a day at the West Edmonton Mall. We ate at the Bubba Gump restaurant, and I told her the story behind the restaurant’s name.
Nighttime is also easier. The night routine is curated to your likes and preferences.
Again, no one but you establishes the rules!
4. Quality Time with Your Kids and Teach Them a Thing or Two
Spending quality time with your kids is a lot more attainable when you are a single mom and will make you a lot happier!
Your whole life is curated to you and your kid’s needs.
You will find that having a mom & daughter/son day is much more common now than before.
You don’t have to rush home to meet anyone, and you have all the time for yourselves.
Depending on your kid’s age, chores such as dinner prep, laundry folding, and organizing groceries may be a great time to teach them some basic skills and engage in meaningful conversations.
Mia & I sometimes discuss an event that happened at school or with her friends, or sometimes I ask her for her opinion on a specific subject.
Involving your kids in house chores and mundane activities will strengthen your relationship with them.
Use this time to sometimes talk and to sometimes listen to your child’s point of view. This may give you important information on how they see the world around them. This is a wonderful time to get closer and still get stuff done!
When is cold outside, some activities may include going to the mall and watching a movie in the theatre or strolling around our favourite stores. I use my Cineplex points to plan an in-home night movie watch either with her friends or the two of us with pizza and popcorn.
Another fun activity to do with boys and girls is video games. We prefer to game during the winter months so we can soak every day of summer outside. Nintendo Switch is the console I find more affordable, and finding a game that we both liked was fun!
5. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Single moms have a lot to do, but happy single moms are a pro in prioritization.
A few dirty dishes in the sink? Don’t panic.
An oven that hasn’t been clean since last Thanksgiving? Who cares.
A happy single mom is focused on her well-being and her kids rather than perfecting housekeeping.
6. Build a Support System
Any happy single mom knows that having a reliable support system is crucial for a fulfilling and calmer lifestyle.
It’s impossible for any mother to handle everything on her own, let alone a single mom. It’s important to recognize when to ask for help and not worry about others’ opinions.
Even married couples require assistance at times. Many people enjoy feeling useful and would be happy to lend a helping hand.
I absolutely love being a single mom. While it may not be ideal and can be uncomfortable at times, you will come out of it stronger and proud of all you have accomplished.
In fact, being a single mom can be more rewarding than you might think.
I hope this inspires you to embrace this lifestyle and become a part of a community of fulfilled and insanely happy single moms who are raising extraordinary human beings.
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I love how you focus on gratitud and the positive, very inspiring ❤️